tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2318756985870843725.post3891405406881649552..comments2024-03-21T03:36:00.644-04:00Comments on Caroline's Breast Cancer Blog: Blogging about others.Carolinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14607559482363983911noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2318756985870843725.post-38036919228213721992014-02-02T23:43:18.572-05:002014-02-02T23:43:18.572-05:00I also must disagree with how you took her blog po...I also must disagree with how you took her blog post. She was telling what the RESEARCH showed. I did not read anything that told what her specific opinion was about it.<br /><br />And for me personally, I feel quite the opposite as you do. I have a small blog with very few followers. I blog about myself, my life. Right now, my life consists of two loved ones battling cancer, so I AM blogging about it -- I WANT TO blog about it. I don't give all the gory details (as most wouldn't) unlike what you suggest would happen. These are my LOVED ONES, and I'm not blogging to shame them. Also, I don't give their full names and addresses, so they are anonymous to anyone who doesn't know them personally. I am not gleefully relaying their daily lives as soon as I can, either. It's always just a "she is having a terrible time with the treatment this time", or "please pray for her procedure tomorrow!" Some days it is too painful to post anything lately.<br /><br />I haven't read your blog except little bits just tonight, but it seems that you are struggling with health issues, and that is why you are focused on blogging about that. However, the struggles *I* am having in MY life right now are about trying to deal with and come to terms with watching my dearly loved ones go through something so devastating. It is tearing me apart and I have absolutely NO control over it. I get strength, love and hope by blogging about it and from the comments, "hugs" and prayers from my caring followers. It IS a way to cope for me.<br /><br />Ultimately, blogging is about the blogger. I don't think the bloggers in the study were setting up blogs expressly to write about the illnesses of their loved ones. I think you blog about your illnesses because that is what your life is about right now, and I (and others) blog about the illnesses of others because that is what MY life is about right now.<br />Please do not pass judgement on me for that. You are not more noble than I am -- your life is just focused differently.<br /><br />And believe me.....I wish with all my heart and SOUL that this WASN'T the focus of my life now, and what I think about all day, every day. I long for the days when my blog was about paint colors and gardening.Lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2318756985870843725.post-57681461656804896572014-02-01T19:06:07.570-05:002014-02-01T19:06:07.570-05:00Caroline, I had to go back and read my blog post t...Caroline, I had to go back and read my blog post to see why you think I "promote blogging about others, especially when they are terminally ill - as a way to cope." I don't promote that, and that is never stated on my post. <br />http://hospiceandnursinghomes.blogspot.com/2014/02/why-blog-about-terminally-ill-relatives.html<br /><br />The post is about a research analysis with bloggers who wrote during and after illness of family members who died of cancer. This was reported in a prominent medical journal with a link. I simply explained the research which lists both pros and cons about this type of blogging, not just as "a way to cope." I included another link to a blog this an example of blogging about a relative's terminal illness. I also thanked you for adding your perspective in the comments. Know that I wish you the best.<br /><br />Happy endings,<br />Frances Shani ParkerFrances Shani Parkerhttp://www.francesshaniparker.com/noreply@blogger.com