tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2318756985870843725.post6260433468918188087..comments2024-03-21T03:36:00.644-04:00Comments on Caroline's Breast Cancer Blog: Cutting the last supportCarolinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14607559482363983911noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2318756985870843725.post-50127965926909170852012-09-15T01:31:53.392-04:002012-09-15T01:31:53.392-04:00dear caroline, i just fnished rad tx 2 weeks ago, ...dear caroline, i just fnished rad tx 2 weeks ago, the last of the tx starting with chemo then surgery. dx'd dec. 2011 with st IV metastatic er+, her 2+. my husband has cancer since 2009, so we were cg/pt together, and got such wonderful support from both his and my clinicians and all the surrounding care,treatment, test people. we are both in remission, and i may even get designated N.E.D at some point. i think you did such a good job expressing what we all go through when all the medical appts. stop, and we find ourselves standing on a whole new threshold of a whole different life. i feel terrible on hindsight as i didn't realize what hugh was going through when his f/u visits were winding down afer a 2nd stem cell transplant - missing all the TLC, and contact with his extraordinary care team. also, some of those lovely people, well-meaning as they were, often focused on me and my progress, rather than on hugh, and i know that must have been very hurtful. lately, i've been feeling a bit rocky - feelings that i just didn't connect with because of the 2 of us running breathlessly back and forth to medical pillar and post - mortality, anger and the surrealness of it all - like it must have been some kind of a bad-joke dream, err, a fucking nightmare. now after reading your post and annemarie's comment, i think it would really help me if i reached out to help hugh. he has had some really bad days, never complained, just spent all his effort being there for me while my breast was fried up with radiation. our resolve to live a "life reinvented" was something we really looked forward to. but sometimes it takes some back-peddling to be able to help heal old wounds that might tarnish new dreams. maybe it will be good for me, help me to disconnect myself from my current funk and reach out with some empathy and TLC to this most beloved, married 45 yrs, still ga-ga- over- him man. thanks caroline and annemarie for giving me a reality check. and i will second that motion, WE'RE IN THIS TOGETHER....WE'LL GET THROUGH IT ALL TOGETHER!". warm hugs, karen sutherlandAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2318756985870843725.post-53826085681359178642012-08-14T10:17:36.047-04:002012-08-14T10:17:36.047-04:00I was just released by my oncologist for "Ann...I was just released by my oncologist for "Annual Followups" and it was NOT easy. I call it "flying without a net" .... Still on femara.... that will be five more years. Reminding me... I forgot to take my damn pill....<br /><br />We're in this together..... we'll get through it all together!AnneMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17728571907921895836noreply@blogger.com