I already had a 'do-over'. I screwed up my first cancer diagnosis and did it better the second time around. But I still would do some things differently if there is a next time.
My first cancer diagnosis I did everything wrong. I didn't seek additional emotional support. I didn't talk about it. I
At my second cancer diagnosis, I said I am in control. I joined a support group before my second surgery. I talked about it. I blog about it. I researched it. I put myself in control of my medical crap. I was not going to let cancer suck any more life out of me. I took some time to figure out how I was going to deal with it.
But have I learned anything that would help me with another cancer diagnosis? I think so.
I do need to say that since my second cancer diagnosis, I have had a couple of other not so good diagnoses. Nothing that will kill me but all will work to try to make me miserable for the rest of my life - degenerating disks, rheumatoid arthritis, and fibromyalgia. I think those count as 'life changing'.
How did I handle them? Pretty well. I researched them. I talk/blog about them. I did work on some emotional support. I didn't let them suck any enjoyment out of my life.
So if another cancer decided to try to suck some fun out of my life? I think I would do the following:
- research it
- talk/blog about it
- find emotional support as I feel I need it
- plan a vacation to go get grounded and develop a plan to take care of my sanity during treatment.
I think that last one is something I would do differently. I would take a few days/weeks to focus myself on a plan for coping. Then spend a few days at the beach to 'rest up' for treatment. Going to the beach is always very important. And I am always happy at the beach.