Sunday, February 1, 2015

Reconnecting after cancer

You go through life, you make friends and then life changes and you may lose touch. Its just a way of life, even if you are on Facebook,Instagram, Twitter, and all the other social media sites, every millisecond. It just happens. Sometimes you get a chance to get back in touch. Sometimes you don't.

But then when cancer hits, and you get back in touch, its how you handle it.

Last year I reconnected with a friend from high school. We went out for a drink with another friend from high school. I chose not to share my cancer stories with her. It just didn't feel right. I didn't want to have that discussion at that time. I blogged about it then how I felt like a wimp because I didn't share. I have been burned before and just didn't want to go through that again.

Yesterday on Facebook I reconnected with an old roommate who I shared a house with two years after college. When she moved out, she and her fiance were planning a wedding and getting a house. We lost touch. But yesterday, she commented on something on my FB timeline referencing my health issues. So I sent her a PM and sent her to my blog to read about it.

Maybe it was because she had figured out my health wasn't stellar that I was more inclined to send her to my blog so she could see what my life is really like. Maybe it was because I know her personality and she wouldn't swoop down with those platitudes that would make her feel good but do nothing for me. Maybe it was because I at the other end of the internet and I could share with out being face to face. Maybe because I was really jealous of her FB picture of her sitting on a motorcycle.

I don't know about how I feel on this. Cancer can be a conversation killer to say the least. And too many times I have been burned and lost friends as a result. Wimpiness may still prevail here. I'm really on the fence with how I feel about this.


1 comment:

Josie Houghton said...

Dear Caroline, I am in a similar position to you and really appreciate your blog. After my first diagnosis and "clearance" I also touched base with some friends I hadn't seen for 20 years or more and we reconnected and really enjoyed each other's company. Three years on we are still close. Thanks for putting it into words, it means a lot. Keep it up, Josie